Accepting Company

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

salam,

As I was saying in Sarah's Almost Clever post on  Oprah and her thoughts, about the 'non-traditional' marriage I'm in, I had been receiving a couple of wedding invitations. So far, It has been my 'stay-in-touch' reunion get-together, since as we get older, we all turn to our own life and on most time we hardly had time to keep in touch. Plus, we all prefer to meet 'live' than virtually. 

Some of the usual question after being marriage was, "So? How's married life?", "Any tips for us newlyweds?", etc...I've been only married for slightly more than a year, and it doesn't make me an expert. So to answer these question, it's as if I'm trying to say that I just started walking literally, and I'm claiming I have a PhD in Quantum Physics. I usually laugh out loud before watching their 'curious' faces, waiting for an answer... Like anyone who was married who came to my wedding said, I blurted, "Be Ready to Learn What is Patience". Seems to be, that was the one advice who bafles me on my wedding day, "seems like everyone is saying this, MUST BE PRETTYYYY important for me to remember". After the first month of marriage, I totally get what it means. It's like the two of you are moving your own whole life suitcase, in a small little room with each other, we're just bound to see the whole side of us. We tend to be more honest, more expressive, even more when you grew VERY comfortable which each other. But it becomes fascinating as you learn about each other  in that short period of time, you seem to accept each other as a whole. not just the good sides, but also in any angle. Accept as a whole.

when I say accepting one as a whole, I embraced the fact that we're both are VERY different. We have different personality, different background, and whollata different, but we didn't need to change each other. We both went through lot to know better than judge each other and try to turn someone into what we're not. In the end, we accept each other with a lot of patience. He continues to do what he loves, and I continue to do what I love. My husband loves fishing, camping and soccer, and I love spiritual talks, discussions, and cuddling. So as they say, a couple who do things together...stays together. But, not just what we love, but also we need to respect each other dislikes, regardless what they are. It's the same how we don't like to be judge with the things that we have problems with, why should we judge on others dislikes? This is when we need to be patience and giving that extra space & support. Alhamdulillah, for now it's working very well. Still, I'm not an expert, I can only say what is it. I can't guarantee fate. 

So to my friends who were recently got hitched, and who will be tying the knot soon...:Special shout out to my good studiomate during my time in the University, Syad and My secondary school good friend, Nina: " Congratulations! May God bless both of you in your marriage. May it be as beautiful as you both could imagine bounted by much love and happiness. " 

H note: listen to each other not any other, and how could anyone know what everyone else is SUPPOSE to DO? Most times, we don't know what WE'RE suppose to DO. 

Love+Peace,

H